Soteria
Seniormedlem
Innlegg: 172
Registrert: 11-3-2006
Brukeren er frakoblet
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Kan skilsmisse føre til personlighetsforandring og demonisk besettelse?
Hva skjer med foreldre etter at de skiller seg? Over natta blir mange krevende og egoistiske, og venter at barna skal ta seg av dem og synes synd på
dem.. Og hva som verre er, man kan vente i mange år på at de skal komme ut av denne tilstanden og bli normale igjen, uten at håpet blir innfridd. Er
det rart at mange skilsmissebarn må over på antidepressiva? Det er ikke rart i det hele tatt.
http://adultkidsofdivorce.yuku.com/topic/517/t/I-have-a-hard...
| Sitat: | My mother went from great, loving, supportive, strong and fun to immature, trashy, selfish, phony and cruel.
My reasons for not speaking to her are two fold.
1. I just don't like her. I don't want to share my life with her. I don't want to play cards with her. I don't want to call her. I don't want to be
around her - period. She is so different in such a weird way that I guess I see it as phony. I can't even figure out if this is the real her, the new
her or a temporary her. Regardless, I don't like her. I still haven't figured out how the word love fits into this. Can we stop loving a parent? It
seems like a sin. Unconditional love - is that a requirement?
2. The way she is treating my dad during the divorce procedure makes me irrate. Her new charater has been revealed in a demonlike state and
the way she is behaving is absolutely disgusting. That's the word I commonly come to when I try to verbalize this to close friends...
disgust. Many people tell me that I am wrong for letting the divorce bother me, but I disagree. I think that it is a true display of character. The
way we treat others, especially in uncomfortable situations, reveals alot about our character, and hers sucks. I won't go into detail but trust me in
that I don't have one sided info. I have read the letters that go back and forth. I have seen the house after she moved out. I have read her notes to
my father. He shares both sides of the picture so that I don't have a warped view. I am basing my judgement on facts, not his opinions. I have a very
close relationship with my dad and have convinced him taht I need to know everything taht goes on. (I think I am beginning to regret that).
So those are my two reasons. I don't like her. I don't like the way she is treating my dad. |
Dette er punkt for punkt nøyaktig som jeg skulle sagt det selv!
Siterer igjen:
| Sitat: | | Can we stop loving a parent? It seems like a sin. Unconditional love - is that a requirement? |
Har et slikt "foreldremonster" krav på barnets kjærlighet? Jaja, en kristen skal jo elske alle, særlig sine foreldre. Men det er sannelig ikke så
lett.
For dem som har sett National Treasure 2 - der har du et eksempel på en slik ukontrollert ekskone. Tilsvarende i sluttscenen av Tempelriddernes skat
2.
| Sitat: | What really struck me in your message was how you said you feel like your mother has died. I feel the same way about mine. There's this body that
walks around that once belonged to a wonderful woman who loved me unconditionally and treated everyone with respect, but now it is occupied by some
freaky b**** who destroyed my family.
You don't have to like your mother. You don't have to be with her. You don't owe her anything. Cast off the shackles of guilt and free yourself from
her.
As for unconditional love, I don't believe it exists. Maybe I am a cynic, but I believe that love is an expectation. You love someone based on what
you think they can give you in return. I'm not talking about money necessarily; it could be support, a boost in self-esteem, a shoulder to lean on,
etc. But there's always something that you expect from that person which is why you love them.
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solbu
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| Sitat: | Opprinnelig postet av Soteria
| Sitat: | | Can we stop loving a parent? It seems like a sin. Unconditional love - is that a requirement? |
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Bibelen sier at vi skal Elske, ikke like, våre fiender. Å elske er noe du bestemmer deg for, ikke noe du
føler for.
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Gnagar
Veteran
Innlegg: 637
Registrert: 26-11-2006
Brukeren er frakoblet
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Bibelen sier at det er vårt kall å finne oss i uforskyldt lidelse.
1. Pet. 2, 18 - 21 har en annen bakgrunn enn det som beskrives
av Soteria, men kanskje kan versene likevel kan ha en viss aktualitet.
| Sitat: | | Dere tjenestefolk skal underordne dere under deres herrer og vise dem all respekt – ikke bare de gode og vennlige, men også de urimelige. 19 Å finne
seg i uforskyldte lidelser fordi en er bundet til Gud i sin samvittighet, det er godt i Guds øyne. 20 Om dere tåler straff når dere har gjort noe
galt, er det noe å rose dere for? Men har dere gjort det som er rett, og så holder ut når dere må lide, da er det godt i Guds øyne. 21 Det var jo
dette dere ble kalt til; for Kristus led for dere og etterlot dere et eksempel for at dere skulle følge i hans spor. |
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Lance
Veteran
Innlegg: 970
Registrert: 11-4-2005
Bosted: Østfold
Brukeren er frakoblet
Humør: Gud er én
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| Sitat: | Opprinnelig postet av solbu
| Sitat: | Opprinnelig postet av Soteria
| Sitat: | | Can we stop loving a parent? It seems like a sin. Unconditional love - is that a requirement? |
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Bibelen sier at vi skal Elske, ikke like, våre fiender. Å elske er noe du bestemmer deg for, ikke noe du
føler for. |
Yes! Amen!
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